"Dear Queen of Hearts, I need to know if there is a problem with a person wanting to watch their lover have sex with another man. Please respond!" - Matt "Matt, if all of you are consenting adults I don't see that there should be a problem. The key words are 'consenting adults,' which means all people involved are completely comfortable and agreeable to the act, and everyone is of legal age and emotionally mature enough to deal with this type of sexual activity. If these conditions are met, then you should also be prepared to accept anything that might happen as a result of this encounter, including the possibility that your lover will dump you to be with the other man. Quite frankly, I wouldn't want to risk it. Do you?" - Queenie

Since 1996, people have been pouring out their relationship woes to the feisty, no-nonsense, online advice columnist for Friends and Lovers the Relationships Guide (friends-lovers.com). She tackles dating and other singles issues in Advice for an Imperfect Single World and takes on issues facing married couples in Advice for an Imperfect Married World.